
Posted on July 23, 2020
By Shari Chinchen
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What better time than summer to begin or rejuvenate your date night habit?
Date nights are a time to build your connection as a couple, a connection that will help your marriage thrive throughout the stages of your life together. It’s a time for each of you to feel pursued and appreciated, to focus on your shared vision, and enjoy being together. They give you an opportunity to set aside everything else—kids, in-laws, work, chores—and spend time rediscovering the amazing person you married.
Be creative, be playful, have fun together! Use these ideas to jump start your own idea list.
Summer is a great time to get outdoors and engage in some shared activities that you and your spouse both enjoy:
Date nights don’t have to include going out and spending a ton of money. Think of fun, out of the box ideas that don’t cost a lot:
It gets a little tricky when you have young kids, but that’s no excuse to neglect your spouse. Someday those kids will fly your nest and you’ll be glad you nurtured your marriage. You may have to be a little creative with timing and, while your kids are young, you may not be able to have as many date nights as you would like. Shoot for quality over quantity and be intentional about the time you do get together. Your marriage is worth the effort.
Just because we’re facing a time of quarantine doesn’t mean we have to give up our date nights. Many of the ideas we’ve already talked about can be easily adapted to work in our current “Stay Home/Stay Safe” climate. And you don’t have to worry about wearing a mask!
When the kids have flown the nest and it’s just you and your spouse, having a date night might seem anticlimactic. But think of the opportunities! No babysitters to schedule, no teenagers to manage! This time is now all about you and your spouse. This time of life opens new avenues for your future together:
Whatever stage of life you’re at and whatever activity you choose to do on your date night, remember that the focus of this time is connection and communication. Whether you’re having a hamburger from the backyard grill or dining at a five-star restaurant, it’s all about enjoying time with the person you’re closest to. It’s a time to romance your spouse, to remember why you married this person, and to fall in love all over again.
The views, opinions, and ideas expressed in this blog are those of the author alone and do not reflect an official position of Pure Desire Ministries, except where expressly stated.

Shari is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) and has been part of the Pure Desire Clinical Team since 2011. She also is a Special Education Teacher at David Douglas High School. She has experience in performing arts and ministry. Shari is a contributing author to Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships.